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Still Point

It was dark outside. The first glimmers of dawn were hours away. The air was cool and still. The cloudless night sky was resplendent with stars that cast a silver hue over the land. The only sound was an occasional cough or snort of a sleeper stirring on their mat. His bare footsteps on the stone floor were as silent as a cat. He passed through the doorway like a ghost; the click of the lock imperceptible.

He glided over the darkened landscape heading away from the lake and up into the hills. Alone.  Eventually, after walking for about thirty minutes, he came to a grassy knoll and sat down with his back against a rock. He sat listening to the silence for a while. Slowly, he sensed entering a safe space where he was loved. Then he sighed and as he exhaled, the disparate needs, the helplessness, the doubts and fears, the repressed anger, and the superficial adulations of those he had healed at Simon’s house the previous day were released from his body. He exhaled again and then when he inhaled he remembered Simon’s mother-in-law—a nameless old woman who lived in the shadows serving the household. When she was touched by him, she instinctively rose and quietly returned to her duties. Of all the people he had met the previous day, she was the one who intrigued him the most. She understood her purpose and place. So he sat with that thought for a long time.

Eventually, as the black sky turned a blue grey, he asked the silence, “What should I do next?” And a thought came to him, “You have your answer.” And so he did.

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Retreat Guide- Lessons from Mark #2- Still Point

No Longer in a Hurry

The older woman in front of me in the checkout line at Trader Joe’s in Fresno mentioned to the clerk who was scanning her groceries that the sprinkler system at her home was not working. The clerk, who was about her same age, responded by telling her his own sprinkler system woes. He had a repairman to his house three times in the past week and he was still having problems. By the way, these issues are important when it was 95 degrees at nine in the morning and headed to 108 by the afternoon.

As I waited, I looked around the room and noticed that all of the other shoppers in the store were senior citizens in their 70s and 80’s. Some were carefully inspecting the fruits and vegetables. A numbered had gathered around the new product tasting bar and were engaged in animated conversations with the clerk and one another. And no one was in a hurry. That is what made the scene so attractive. They had time to talk with each another. Trader Joe’s was more than a grocery store for them. It was a social network.

George Vaillant in the book Aging Well says that as we age and suffer the loss of mates and friends, we must learn to replace our lost companions with new friends. Grandchildren work spectacularly well by the way. Early morning at the grocery store may be another place to meet new people. And if your sprinklers don’t work, I know some folks who can steer you in the right direction.